Posted by: Joe Palmer | March 8, 2010

Four Steps to True Change

Four Steps to True Change

By Joe Palmer

Keep reading to discover four steps you can take to make real change happen in your life. These steps will guarantee you get closer to your goal every day.

A boy told his father, “Dad, if three frogs were sitting on a limb that hung over a pool, and one frog decided to jump off into the pool, how many frogs would be left on the limb?” The dad replied, “Two.” “No,” the son replied. “There are three frogs and one decides to jump, how many are left?” The dad said, “Oh, I get it, if one decides to jump, the others would too. So there are none left.” The boy said, “No dad, the answer is three. The frog only DECIDED to jump.”

Does that sound like last year’s resolution? Great inspiration and great resolutions, but often times we only decide, and months later we are still on the same limb of do-nothing.

Perhaps we need to ask, “What is a resolution anyway?” I looked  up the word “resolution” and found some things that perhaps we need to think about. I found four steps to successfully making a resolution.

The act of analyzing a complex notion into simpler ones.

Now there is some place we can all start. Let’s make life simpler. I have found that the most complex problems are really simple.
  • If you want a better marriage, be a better mate.
  • If you want a better job, do a good job where you are at.
  • Do you want to be happier, smile more, laugh more, and be happy.

Step one is break the problem down to it’s simplest issue.

The act of answering: SOLVING.

Another meaning of resolution is to solve a problem. We all have problems but we put little effort into actually solving them instead we waste our energy in non productive activities. Here are a few
  • Complaining
  • Criticizing others
  • Blaming others
  • Passing the buck
  • Worry
What if we actually sat down and thought of positive ways to solve the problem. What if we got out a piece of paper and wrote down all the possible solutions and analyzed which would work best?
Step two look for solutions.

The act of determining.

So make a decision. Which solution is best?  Which way do you want to go?  A resolution is what we determine to do. We aren’t so much a victim of circumstance as we sometimes think. I know bad things happen to good people. The reality is that often we are where we are, because of what we decided to do, or not to do. So decide what you want your life to be like and become that person.
Step three, a decision to act.
Something that is resolved (made a resolution to mend my ways)

A resolution means I must mend/change my ways. It would be great if we could find that mythical lamp and ask the genie inside to grant us our wishes, but the reality is for change to take place: change must take place. If I do the same thing I did last year I’ll probably get the same results. A resolution takes resolve, commitment, consistent effort. There will be obstacles, set backs, and failures. We have to get up and keep going toward our goal. This step is probably a key more than any others. Remember:
  • Change doesn’t happen quickly.
  • You will get discouraged.
  • There will be obstacles.

But, if we keep moving toward the goal, we will find success.

Step four, a continued effort to change.

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror;  for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does. James 1:22 – 25
Joe Palmer


  1. Excellent post, Joe! I appreciate your good work on this topic. God bless!

  2. Thanks Bill,

    I appreciate your encouragement.


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